We are always searching for good relationships—the sort that makes us eager to spend time with our partners, lead healthy lives together, and—most importantly—create an environment conducive to both individuals and shared growth. However, in many partnerships, that is not the case. People get to confront each other with all of their weaknesses, traumas, and unsolved issues once the initial round of firecrackers is finished. At that point, putting a lot of effort into the relationship to make it work becomes necessary. It becomes a two-way path of understanding, sharing our feelings with one another, and, most importantly, letting the other person know of our expectations from the relationship.
However, there are other mistakes we make in relationships that eventually lead to disagreements and fights. These disputes frequently turn into greater ones, which eventually result in separations. We can avert the abrupt termination of the relationship with a little effort and affection for one another. Nedra Glover Tawwab, a therapist, and author of the book Set Boundaries, Find Peace, addressed the matter and listed four things we should refrain from doing if we want a good relationship in a recent Instagram post. Here are her advice:
1. Defensive: Relationships frequently include arguments. Contrary to popular belief, if we are ready to process conflict in a healthy way, it may really broaden our perspectives.
2. Speaking negatively: We frequently encounter instances in relationships where we are overly irate and upset with our partners. Picking up the phone or meeting with someone we feel comfortable speaking to about it is the first thing we do.
3. Applaud: Healthy relationships are based on love and simple things, like smiling and blushing together and giving each other compliments.
4. Connect: Connecting, being honest, and communicating our feelings to the other person is crucial. Start by moving ahead.
Source: hindustan times
