Some folks are relationship material, while others aren’t (at least not right now). Relationships necessitate compassion and sacrifice, and it’s not uncommon to date someone who is too self-centered to be in a serious relationship.

Listed below are indicators that the person you’re seeing is too self-centered for a long-term relationship, according to therapists and other relationship specialists.

1. They Care More About Your Career Than Your Character

Consider it a major, obvious red flag if you never feel good enough for your spouse and he or she is far more concerned about what you do than who you are. Will I Ever Be Free of You? by Karyl McBride, a therapist, and author. How to Heal Your Family and Navigate a High-Conflict Divorce from a Narcissist

2. You Feel Controlled By Their Many Rules

People with selfish personalities have high expectations of others, and if you don’t live up to them, you’ll nearly always be judged, according to Jan Hill, a Toronto-based counselor and author of Happy Sex: Reclaiming Passion and Play in Your Relationship.

3. Your Partner Prioritizes “Me” Over “We”

According to Samantha Burns, a Boston-based relationship counselor, and dating coach, your partner should value your input, embrace a team approach, and consider the pair as a whole when making decisions. Your happiness is equally as important as hers when you’re in a good relationship.