Loneliness is the state of mind. Lots of people are feeling lonely irrespective of their companion. In the last 30 years, it has almost doubled. It can be called as ‘Loneliness Pandemic’. Elderly people are feeling much lonely. There is nothing wrong with being lonely. In the UK charity fund and local councils are now offering funding to those who are feeling lonely and isolated, especially the elderly. There may be many reasons for that but feeling lonely is different, and not about Whether you are with other people or by yourself. It’s about how connected you are with other people. As said earlier it’s a serious psychological condition. Overcoming it is important as it leads to serious issues like anxiety, addiction to alcoholism, sleep disorder. Here we look at reasons you can feel lonely even when being with your man.
You are afraid of intimacy.
There is a fear of rejection and that’s why they keep others from getting too close. To connect with people you need to come close and interact and that is the risk of exploring yourself. As there is fear in mind for rejection, there are chances people remain in isolation.
Stuck in the past.
Sometimes loneliness has a deep root in your past. Perhaps you were lonely, shy in your school and even though you are now an adult you are holding on to the sense of feeling lonely you once had. In the past, if someone hurts you then that may stop you from connecting with other people in the present day.
You might be struggling with codependency.
Using others for your sense of self-worth is codependency. Inevitably rejection chances are there and you will feel misunderstand and that will lead to loneliness. Codependent also tend to put their life aside to do what their partner wants.
You don’t know yourself well enough.
You might be in a career that doesn’t suit you, surrounded by people you can’t connect with because on the deeper level they don’t match you. If this the case then irrespective of an active successful life, you are lonely. You better need to do some self-development work and understand yourself.
You are suffering from depression.
Depression is a silent killer and makes the best of us flawless and useless. Connecting people requires a good state of mind. If you are suffering from depression it’s impossible to connect with people. In this case of depression, your thinking about yourself becomes negative and that is the obstacle in connecting with people.